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Comment on Tears of Joy by Andrea Ulibarri

Andrea Ulibarri — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 18:19:03 +0000

Hi Dayle!

We are neighbors, well when you are at work we are. You are going to be a fantastic mother, don’t worry you will start nesting your home before those precious little girls arrive. How exciting two babies~you are going to have so much fun dressing them up! The time goes so fast, and they will be grown up before you know it. Enjoy every single moment you can with them, and take lots of pictures! When they are older and you look at them when they were babies it just melts your heart. If you can video record them, that is even better. Good Luck in everything, and get as much sleep as you can now, it will “Lack there of” when the girlies are here. Take care, and God Bless you, your Husband and the babies!

Andrea

Comment on Tears of Joy by Melisa O

Melisa O — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 14:49:42 +0000

Dayle, I remember those feelings before Eloise was born! It’s amazing that you can be so in love before you’ve ever met them. Your girls are so blessed to have you as a Mommy. You’re going to do a great job with them! Enjoy all the little moments, they go so fast.

Comment on Tears of Joy by Johnny Revious

Johnny Revious — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 19:52:22 +0000

Me too! and Sharon

Comment on Signing Off by Dawn

Dawn — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 01:01:28 +0000

Congrats you are almost there! As far as the baby naming goes sounds like it’s time for a unique approach. I knew a girl whose parents could not agree on what she should be named. So they wrote the names on strips of paper and placed each name by a candle. They lit the candles, the last candle burning is what they named her. I loved hearing her story of how she got her name. Anything is better than Richard’s suggestions!

Comment on Signing Off by Ricky

Ricky — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 00:07:53 +0000

Hope you have an easy labor and delivery.
You’ll know what to name your Daughters AFTER they come into the world.

Just remember this,what ever you name them,make them UNIQUE names.
That way,God willing if they become famous,everyone will remember their names.

This coming from a female,Ricky to a female Dayle.Best of luck to you and family.

Comment on Asking for Help by Liz

Liz — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:59:16 +0000

I think as women we do a horrible job of judging each other’s actions and decisions. If a woman wants to utilize a baby planner, like she might other services she needs help with, then by all means, go for it! Life is too short to try to be Superwoman (and believe me, I’ve tried and its not possible).

As the mother to two little boys and one on the way, trust me, there’s more to mothering than doing all the prep work or reading all the free websites out there brimming with information. Sure a baby planner can do a lot for you but there will be many a time when being a “good mother” is all you.

And as for new moms will think that they need to “keep up with Jones” when it comes to hiring a baby planner, even if they can’t afford it, I think we should give them a little more credit.

At the end of the day, being a good parent is the sum of MANY parts. If getting a little help here and there helps you get to the end goal, a wonderful child(ren), then isn’t that what we’re all aiming for?

Comment on Signing Off by Joanna

Joanna — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:28:34 +0000

Best of luck Dayle!
I agree with the need to have a yell-test on all variations (and watch the initials for unflattering acronyms or words). Yelling out the back door is a great way to do it.
I do not agree with the calls for mom-only rights to naming, though. Yes, mothers endure the physical changes and the delivery and recovery, but fathers endure watching the loves of their lives change and suffer for love of them. Most men are conditioned to suffer in silence and so I suspect it would be very difficult to get them to own up to it, but pregnancy can be terrifying and emasculating for them because (as we mothers know too well) there is very little they can do to help beyond the hand holding and saying “you can do it”. Rather than look at our partners with disdain for limitations beyond their control, we can smile and offer our efforts out of love. Once the babies are out, dads can “do it all”: diaper changes, bottle feeding (pumped breastmilk or formula), bathing, cuddling, night-duty, pacing, laundry, housework. I found my husband eager to help because he had felt helpless for so long. So, in the long-term, the duties can be split much more evenly–there’s just a lot for Mom in the beginning. (Also, studies have shown that dads actually do undergo hormonal and physical changes in sympathy to their pregnant partners.) In short, these beauties are Daddy’s little girls, too, so do name them together!
I would recommend coming to consensus together on both girls’ names so that you and Dad like both names. Consider it practice for all the parenting decisions you will need to negotiate in the coming years (ear-piercing, sleepovers, driving with friends, dating, etc.) Remember you can hyphenate or give more than one “middle” name if you need to “fit it all in”. Congratulations again and enjoy the ride!!!

Comment on Asking for Help by Beth

Beth — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 04:43:20 +0000

Hello Dayle,

Believe it or not, I have enjoyed your blog, even though I am single and have no children. I just enjoyed reading it. I think if one wants a baby planner, life planner, wedding planner; then go for it. We are free to choose how we want to live our lives. My only comment is that a baby planner is probably not inexpensive - and there are many, many women who can’t afford one who may really need it. As a gift in your or your twins name, a few of your frineds or family could go together and pay April’s fee - and find a pregnant woman who really needs her help, maybe through a charity. It’s just a thought. Many Blessings to you and your family.

Comment on Signing Off by Meghan

Meghan — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 02:47:09 +0000

Hi Dayle,

I had an easy time with my son’s first name. We had a hard time agreeing on his middle name until my grandfather died while I was still pregnant. So I named him after grandpa. His name does roll well when I yell it. He’s two now so I yell it a lot. Congrats and hope everything goes smoothy for ya.

Comment on Signing Off by Kendra

Kendra — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:00:39 +0000

Good luck with your babies and may you have a happy and healthy delivery! I agree with everyone else…MOM carries the baby (or in your case babies!) MOM has all the “wonderful” side effects that come along with being pregnant, MOM is the one that delivers the baby/babies! And what does DAD do?? Hold our hand and say, you can do it. MOM gets naming rights! But when it comes down to it, even if you don’t have names picked out, you’ll know once you see those sweet little faces. When my husband and I were pregnant with our youngest daughter, her name was Brittney from 24 weeks until 33 weeks when I delivered. Since I delivered prematurely she had to go to the NICU almost immediately. I was given about 2 minutes to give kisses and hugs and count fingers and toes. My husband went with her to the NICU. I was having some complications after birth so I was still in delivery 90 minutes later. My husband kept coming in to check on me and give me “baby updates”. During his second baby update he told me she just didn’t look like a Brittney, she looked like a Chelsea. Now this was a name we had NEVER considered. Once I was able to go to the NICU to see her, I completely agreed and her name became Chelsae. Two rules to remember…1) Don’t fret the small stuff! and 2) It’s ALL small stuff! Just enjoy your babies! Thank you for sharing! We look forward to “baby updates”!